Be The Woman Men Love

This was the title of a Google header today that caught my attention. How the hell do you do that exactly? Because even when you have all the traits a man says he is looking for in a mate, that doesn't mean he won't cheat on you. Or perhaps those same traits will eventually become annoying to him. Men are fickle creatures. They don't even know what they want, so how are women supposed to be the woman they want? Are we supposed to read their minds? It's funny how these articles are always tailored to women as if we are the only ones with issues. As if men have it together and we are the ones who need to get it right. They always say it's hard to please a woman but it's even harder, in my opinion, to please a man.

Even if a man had Halle Berry, Beyonce, J. Lo, and one of the Stepford wives all rolled up into one, he still would find a reason to stray. A man's ego won't let him be happy with you, even if you are perfect for him because he thinks there's someone even better waiting around the corner. This is true for most men, no matter how sexy or not so cute. They all want perfection but even when they get it, they complain and want something more. Men are special creatures.

Let's say that you are the type of woman who caters to your man, at some point he'll complain that you are too nice and have no backbone. Perhaps you cook, clean, work, take care of the kids, keep you outward appearance looking nice, sex you man when he wants, sounds damn near perfect to me; but then he complains that you don't do these things good enough. WTF!!!!

So why should we try to be something other than who we are in order to have a man love us when he'll probably nitpick or stray anyway? We are all someone a man can love, it's just a matter of finding the right one. We can't be the perfect woman for every man, not even Halle Berry could accomplish that feat. If a man is the right one for you, he'll fall in love with who you are and not with who he wants you to be. We do too much already to please men who don't appreciate all the hell we put ourselves through just to look good. So why would they appreciate any other changes we make to be the woman they love? So ladies be you and if a man doesn't like it, drop him and find one that does. Until next time--Keci