Having Your Cake And Eating It Too

Recently a friend sent me a link to a story involving a woman, her husband, and her live-in boyfriend. Say what??? This lady was having her cake and eating it too as the saying goes. She had a husband and a boyfriend who were willing to share her. How often does that happen? I've only seen it in movies. Of course this too good to be true story ended badly; at least for the men. Apparently one day the lady and the boyfriend were having sexual intercourse and the husband got mad and demanded they stop. I guess he finally came to his senses that sharing your wife is not a good idea or perhaps it was merely his turn and the boyfriend wasn't playing fair. Whatever the reason for the husband's change of heart, it led to a physical altercation where both men were injured and subsequently arrested. Then to top it all off, the lady put them both out. I guess she no longer wanted the baggage of dealing with two men. I mean seriously, it's hard enough to deal with one. This story goes to show that sometime fantasies should stay fantasies because in reality things never work out the way one expects.

Can Separate Ever Be Equal?

Back in the 60's the Supreme Court decided that separate could not be equal when it came to education. This was partly due to the fact that the differences in resources for blacks and whites were unequal. Would the court have ruled the same way if the circumstances had been different? What if the schools had been equal in quality and the teachers on the same level and if both races had the same books, then would separate be equal? Are is separation truly inherently unequal? Or is it just that some people still refuse to admit that all races are capable of intelligent thought and no one race is superior? If we were given the same opportunities to learn at the same level would it be possible to separate? I don't advocate races keeping separate because personally I think people need to get over the whole race thing since none of us are going anywhere and we are all stuck here together. I just wonder if separate can ever be equal?

Death

With the recent death of Bernie Mac and Isaac Hayes within a day of each other, I begin to think about how short life really is. A couple of months ago a friend of mine had his younger brother die unexpectedly. He was only 21 years old, just went to sleep and didn't wake up again. I have come to realize that sometimes there is no tomorrow. The saying "why put off 'til tomorrow what you can do today" is really resonating with me now. It's time to go for what you want, to grab the bull by the bull by the horns as they say. We all hope to live to be 100, but it just might not happen; so make the most of the time you do have. Death is a scary thing and I don't look forward to it but I also know that I can't prevent it. This moment is the only one that I'm guaranteed. We so often put off things out of fear or pure laziness, but the next time you think about doing that think about how short life is and just do it. I cherish ever moment I have. The idea of dying puts life in perspective. It allows you to move past that fight you had with your significant other, to take a chance, mend broken relationships, enjoy each moment. It's a liberating idea no matter how scary. We've all seen the movies or t.v. shows where someone is told he/she has 6 months to live or some other number of months and they go out and live their lives to the fullest. The notion that they were dying allowed them to become free from the constraints that we often place on ourselves; even if at the end the diagnosis was usually wrong. You don't have to think you are dying in order to truly enjoy our life, you just need to let go of the fear and remember that tomorrow is not promised to anyone so seize today. Carpe Diem!!!!!!!!!!!