Used and Abused

While watching Tyler Perry's new movie, "Meet the Brown's" something resonated with me. I begin to wonder how many women out there are too scared to open themselves up to a good man for fear of being used and abused again. So many sistas have been hurt in so many ways, that we no longer feel that we can trust a man to treat us right. And if one does come along who seems too good to be true, he usually is. So when the time comes and you do actually meet someone who is genuine and honest and caring, your creep antenna goes up and you search for any sign of him being a dog. You are basically waiting for something to go wrong because you aren't used to being treated with respect and like a lady and not just another piece of meat. Black women in particular have had a hard time when it comes to our men. We have faced so much abuse and humiliation that we come to expect it and don't know how to react to kindness. So many of us have lost all faith in men. You know the saying, "all men are dogs."

The fear that keeps us from trusting and believing cripples us emotionally. We've forgot how it feels to be loved and wanted. We forget how beautiful we are after being called ugly and/or fat or some other spiteful thing. We forget that we are queens and should be treated as such and that we are not bitches and hos. We forget how strong we are after being beat down so much. We lose sight of our goals, because we've been told we are worthless and won't amount to anything. We've become everything they said we already were because after being used and abused so much we begin to believe the things said about us. Men have always had the ability to torture women due to our emotional vulnerability. Me are our weakness and we give them too much power over us. It's time we reclaimed out throne and our power and treat ourselves the way queens should be treated. We deserve respect for being strong black women who persevere through trials and tribulations. We deserve respect for or battle scars. We've fought long and hard and now is our time to reap the reward for all the hell we've been put through. We also deserve love and happiness. We have to learn how to give love a chance and see that not every brotha is like the dog we've dated and been hurt by. There are still some good men out there and no they may not have a fancy car and fancy jewelry but they will have a big heart and treat you with respect and your children with respect if you have any. They will love you the way you deserve to be loved and that's worth more than jewelry and cars any day.