My Rant

Men: can't live with them, can't live without them. (well, maybe you can, but they come in handy every once and a while). But why do they have to be so irritating??? They just have a way of pushing our buttons. For me it's when my boyfriend acts completely nonchalant about things they I believe are important; and it's not even things that concern me but rather him or us as a couple. That irks me to no end. Sometimes I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, but then I'm sure my neighbors would call the police and I wouldn't want that. Why do men and women think so differently? Why is it that we care so much more than they do? It boggles the mind.

I love men. I love hanging out with them, I love dating them, I love laughing and talking with them. I get along really well with men in general, but it doesn't mean I understand them. I spent most of my teenage years around my brother's friends and I loved to here them talk. It was useful to see how men talk about women and just get to see what men do when they get together. They are about twenty times worse than women. Men gossip so much!! They watch soap operas, they have silly know it all conversations and spend a lot of time trying to outdo each other. I can't count the number of times I have laughed at out of shaped over the hill men trying to show who's best at basketball or track or something physical. It's the funniest thing ever. It's all about the male ego. They just have to win or be the best. Crazy. And they are super sensitive, it may not be about the way they look like women are, but almost everything else is a go. Again it's the ego. It's such a fragile thing and they are the biggest babies when their feelings are hurt or God forbid them catch a cold. You'd think they had a life threatening illness, when we get colds we roll with it and still endure. Then they complain about how women nag all the time, when all we are trying to do is get some straight answers or get them to do something they should have or should be doing anyway. We don't enjoy yelling at our men or having to constantly ask them to do something. It annoys you, well what do you think it does to women. Sometimes I get tired of hearing my voice from having to repeatedly ask a man to do something or explain why he did or did not do something. It's physically draining and gives me a headache, so believe me "nagging" a man brings women no pleasure. And if you hate it that much, go get a man and leave us women the hell alone.

Scam Artist

A friend of mine just sent me a message regarding scam artist calling people and telling them that they have a bench arrant out on the for failure to appear for jury duty. The person then, of course, denies ever getting a summons for jury duty. The scammer then asks for the person's social security number and date of birth to verify that he was sent the summons. The scammer then uses this information to steal the person's identity. Normally, I would wonder who would fall for this? But I've seen too many news stories about scam artist scamming old people or people who don't really think that someone wold do something this devious to them. It's a sad world we live in where you have to be wary of everything for fear of someone being out to harm you. It seems the more we do to try and protect ourselves from scammers, the more sophisticated their scams become. These are obviously intelligent people, how else would they come up with scams that rip people off for millions? So why don't this people do something worthwhile with their life's instead of hurting innocent people? We have a tendency to look at these people like they are different from the average guy who pulls a stick up, but they aren't. They are just as bad and sometimes wore than the guy who tries to steal your purse. People who perform sophisticated scams are out to hurt as many people as possible with no thought to the harm they are causing. They are selfish and there is no redeeming quality for their behavior, unlike the guy who may have stolen your purse because he was hungry and saw no other way. Both criminals are wrong, but at least one may have a understandable reason for his actions. I have no pity or empathy for anyone who would milk old people and poor people out of the little money they possess. That, to me, is just evil. However, I do believe in karma and I hope that people who pull scams like this get what's coming to them a thousand times over.

Ebony and Ivory

With America being the melting pot it is, there are a lot of people who date outside their respective races. As we progress through time, this phenomenon becomes more and more prevalent. Most people have come to accept interracial dating on some level or at least tolerate it. Of course there are still people who believe in no racial mixing; but most often I hear people upset because they believe that someone chose to date outside his/her race for the wrong reasons. This reason being because they have interacted with someone who dates outside his/her race simply because that person beleives his/her own race is inferior or the person believes that dating someone outside his/her race is some type of status symbol. I am all for dating and marrying the person you love, regardless of ethnicity or color. It is sad however to hear a someone declare that he/she refuse to date someone of his/her own race simply based on some stereotype. A person never knows whom his/her soulmate may be, so why discard an entire race based on faulty logic.

We should all be able to date whomever we want without being ridiculed but we should also do it for the right reasons. Don't vow to date only Asian women because you think they are more compliant or only date black men because you believe they all have great sexual prowess compared to other races. Every race is compiled of different personality types and physical attributes. Dating outside your race should be because you like the particular person you are with regardless of color. You shouldn't date someone just based on race because you will face a rude awakening when you realize that women and men of all races have issues and shortcomings.

Case Of The Fakeness

The world is full of fake people. So how do you tell the real from the fake? I've met a lot of phony people in my time. They are easy to spot. You know the ones who sucks up to everyone. The ones who smile in your face and then talk about you behind your back. The ones who say whatever they think you want to hear or the ones who only speak to you when they want something. Being fake is like an art, it takes talent. It takes persistence and skill to be "on" all the time. I wonder if fake people even realize our fake they are or do they get so caught up in it they can't tell anymore? I would think it would be extremely tiring to spend all your time pretending. But I've been known to be wrong from time to time.

I believe in being real at all times. If I don't like you, I don't deal with you. I find it hard to pretend to have interest in what some one is saying or doing when I know I don't; which may explain my difficulty in finding a job. I just can't be fake and getting a job always requires at least some degree of fakeness on the interviewee's part because nine times out of ten the person interviewing you is among the fake and fairly skilled at it, since he or she has made it to a position of hiring. Just once I would like to walk into an interview and have a real honest no holds barred conversation. I just want to be me and not be judged for that.

Being fake has to be a learned behavior and I wonder when one learns it and how? Are there classes you take for it? Is it learned in school, from family or friends? I would really like to know. Politicians have it down to an art form and so do most successful attorneys and business people. I should just say most successful people in general. It's refreshing to actually converse with real people after being surrounded by fakeness for long periods of time. All real people at some point have to interact with fake people and I know how hard it can be. You may want scream or curse or even hurt them. Just let it go, because that won't cure a case of the fakeness. I'm sure there's a cure out there and boy would I love to find it.

The Price Women Pay For Beauty

When it comes to beauty, women will do and try anything to make themselves feel and look more beautiful. Why do we go to such great lengths/ One word:men. Men expect women to be perfect even when they are less than perfect. Men no matter how they look or how much they have all expect and some demand to only date women of a certain caliber. Every man wants that perfect 10, even when they are only a 2. Shows like Flavor of Love are a prime example. Although I don't necessarily view the women on that show as exceptionally beautiful, some are cute. Flavor Flav wants a dime piece even when he himself is more like a peso. Women are judged by how they look, not how smart they are or how talented they are. Women risk their lives in order to be viewed as more attractive by society. Prime example: Donda West. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the way she looked, yet she felt the need to go under the knife and change her appearance. This goes to show how vain our society has made even the most successful, intelligent women.

Women spend millions each year on beauty products, everything from makeup to botox. We torture our feet in 3 inch heels. Pay money weekly for manicures, pedicures, and waxes. Pay hundreds biweekly to get our hair done. Buy more clothes and shoes than any one person needs. Imagine how much money we would save in a year if we didn't go through this beauty rituals? It's funny how men can do absolutely nothing to make themselves look better and still get our attention, while we go to the ends of the earth to catch their eye. The woman who shuns these beauty rituals is seen as the oddball, the outcast. Why can't she just be true to herself, without being teased. Not every woman believes her femininity and beauty lies in makeup and form fitting clothes. Some women prefer being natural and they should be commended, not ridiculed.

Mama's Baby, Daddy's Maybe

Why is it so hard for some women to be honest about who fathered their children? Even if the guy was a one night stand or looks like the Leprechaun, he is still your child's father. It saddens me to see young women who have slept around so much that they actually don't know who is the father of their children. We've all seen the Maury Povich show. You know the one where the girl has been on the show at least 5 times already and tested 12 men of whom none was her child's father. What gets me about that is how could anyone short of a prostitute actually sleep with that many men during her period of ovulation? It's disgraceful and I have empathy for the child who has to grow up and find out his mom was on national TV testing 20 men because she had no idea of his/her father was; talk about teasing. And then there are the women who swear on everything holy that the man they brought on the show is the father of their baby, in fact, they are 1000% sure...lol; only for Maury to announce that the guy is not the father. Now obviously this means that these women had to have slept with more than one man during the time she became pregnant, so why be adamant about who the father of your child is when you know there are other possibilities? Just be honest and save yourself the embarrassment.

It is true that a growing number of men refuse to acknowledge their children and do need to be exposed for their trifling ways, but please be sure the guy is actually the father before you bring him on national TV. Men get a bad rap for denying their children and most of them deserve it, but when the actions of women bring into question the possibility of there being more than one possible father, men have a right to wonder and not accept as true your word. For example, a young lady from my hometown became pregnant and at the time she was pregnant claimed one young man as the father of her child and even went as far as to list his name on the birth certificate. Then the next thing you know, she declares another man the father of the baby. So she has one guy paying child support and another thinking it's his child. This is ironic seeing that her mother did the exact same thing when she was born and her not finding out who her real father until she was 17 years old. It makes one wonder why she would then put her child through the same circumstances? I guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree.

No matter what the motivation, women should not play games when it comes to who fathered their children. The child deserves more than that and perhaps if we were on the up and up, men wouldn't be so quick to deny a child. It used to be that a man would readily accept his woman's word that she was pregnant and he was the father. No questioned asked. He trusted her and didn't need any DNA test. Now its hard to even believe a woman when she says she's pregnant because so many women have used that ploy to try and keep a man. We now have to fight an uphill battle to regain the unconditional trust of our men. It's unfair to good honest women but we all, unfortunately, have to pay the cost for the ways of trifling women everywhere. But keep hope alive, maybe one day they will learn the error of their ways.

Sex and Society

With the new season of Flava of Love now airing, I began to wonder just how many women out there are willing to make fools of themselves just to be in the spotlight? This is the third season of women willing to kiss and even have sex with Flava Flav just to be on T.V.; because we all know none of them are really looking to date let alone marry him. It seems the more mature women rebel against the stereotypes and misogynistic displays by society, the more women with self-esteem and/or self-confidence issues fight to generate and display these same stereotypes. These women go on T.V. and ridicule and fight and act sluttish all for our entertainment with no thought to the images they are portraying. Some of them have children at home watching them make fools of themselves and believing that it's okay to be that way. Are they lacking love? What is it that makes them want to debase themselves? I hate seeing our children learn this behavior from these women. It's so pervasive in our society, that it's virtually impossible to shield them. It's the type of behavior displayed on shows like this and videos that teach young girls that its okay to be overly sexual and teach young boys that it's okay to disrespect women and have more than one woman at at time.

Yes sex sells, buy it also harms. If we as women spent more time uplifting our gender and encouraging inner beauty, men would not have the power they wield over us currently. They would give us more respect if we respect ourselves and refuse to be disrespected. Our image is society is so tainted and widespread, they some of us have come to believe in its truth. It is time for women to take hold of their power and show the world that we are the backbone, that we are teh future and serve a major purpose and that without us, men would be nothing.