OWN IT!!!!!

I was once told that my successes are my successes and my failures are my failures and no matter what I had to own them both. People are quick to own their successes and often time even the success of others, but when it comes to their failures, they prefer to point the finger at everyone and everything else besides themselves. It's time we owned our failures just as much as we own our successes. Most people feel as if failure is a sign of weakness and an inability to succeed, but we all fail at something at some point in our lives. No one is perfect. Failing is a part of life, no one can win all the time.

There are many times in my life that I have felt like a failure. When I graduated law school and was still jobless, I felt like a failure. When I found myself pregnant at 16 and then again at 21, I felt like a failure. Every time I get rejected for a job I feel like a failure, it's a natural feeling. There's nothing wrong with failing sometimes but the key to succeeding is to own your failings and use them to help you grow as a person and become a success. Taking responsibility is hard for some people, it makes them feel better to place the blame on others. That is not the way to succeed in life because at some point your actions will catch up with you and the result will be twice as bad as what it would have been if you would have just accepted the blame for your actions originally. We all make mistakes and bad judgment calls and we can all move pass whatever failure we have experienced. This I believe.

When I got pregnant while still in high school, I felt I had failed not only myself but everyone who was looking at me to make something of myself, there was no one else to blame for thepredicament I found myself in but me, so I owned up to my failure. But as my mother and grandmother reminded me, I wasn't a failure. They said we all make mistakes and we should learn from them, they babysat while I went to school, they didn't see me as a failure and that meant so much to me. Without them, who knows where I would be right now. By owning up to what I felt was a failure, I was able to get the support of my family to help me achieve my goals. When you own up to your failures and accept them as yours, people will respect you more and be more willing to help. So the next time you make a bad decision or a wrong turn in life, own it and it will only help you in life.