Yesterday I had a huge argument with my boyfriend that resulted in me telling him I wanted to break up. It all started over a candy wrapper and littering, it may be the dumbest and third most volatile argument I have ever participated in. Looking back on our behavior I realize that we both overreacted to a minor situation and it caused havoc within our relationship. So when has an argument gone too far? Is it only when it comes to fist-a-cuffs or is when you say something you regret as soon as it comes out of your mouth? Arguments are bound to happen in any relationship so why do we allow them to escalate out of control especially when you know you still want to be with the person? Why do we allow our anger to get the best of our reasoning and maturity? Why must we be right even when we know we are wrong? Human nature dictates that we win at what we do even if its arguing. We all want to come out on top even when it hurts those closes to us.
Sometimes our anger gets the best of us and it costs us that which we care most about. I for one need to learn how to to better communicate my feelings to others without resorting to profanity and namecalling; it's learned behavior that I really need to unlearn. Our environments growing up play a huge part in dictating our own behavior, we often do what we are shown growing up. I know I grew up in a volatile household where profanity and name calling were prevalent which is why I display the same behavior myself. I'm not making excuses, I know my behavior is wrong and I would like to change it, but I know it will take patience and a lot of time.
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