Monday, October 27, 2008
Senseless Killings
I just saw the report that a child's body was found in the trunk of Jennifer Hudson's murdered brother's missing SUV and we all know that the body will be identified as her missing nephew. I am deeply sadden by the events that have taken place this weekend and the tragedy that has befallen her family. As a mother, hearing about the death of a child breaks my heart especially when the child dies at the hands of brutality. Whoever murdered this family is a cold callous psychopath. Anyone who can take the life of a child has no heart and no conscience. It seems that everyday someone takes the life of another person. What has the world come to? The number of senseless killings seems to have magnified in recent years, with the youth of today having no value for human life not even their own. Senseless killings like that of Hudson's family should not go unpunished and hopefully the perpetrator is caught. My mind is just reeling from the news of this massacre. I don't really have the words to explain how angry this makes me. I'm so tired of reading about the murder of innocent people who have done nothing to deserve to lose their lives. What the hell is wrong with people? Will the killing ever stop? Is there anything we as a people can do to stop it? I have a lot of questions but no answers, hopefully someone else does.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Black Republicans
Is that an oxymoron? What type of black person finds him/herself identifying with Republicans? Politics is a dirty game and Black America has always come out as losers but even more so when the government is being run by Republicans. So how does one become a Black Republican? Are you filthy rich and reap benefits from the tax breaks the wealthy receive from Republicans or are you a Republican because you identify with the religious and "moral" belief's that Republicans preach about constantly? Perhaps a Democrat wronged you personally in some way and it's revenge, I don't really know. I tend to not discuss politics with people because it is a very dangerous subject and one never knows how the guy sitting next to you may feel. I don't take issues with anyone's political views as long as they can justify why they believe what it is that they believe in, only when one's reasoning is completely asinine do I take issue. I don't care if you are a member of the Democratic Party, Republican Party, Independents, Socialists, or the Green Party, if you aren't a true believer in what that party stands for then don't talk politics with me. Being black in a country run by the opposing race has lead us to identify with the lesser of the two evils, the Democrats. Liberals have done far more than Republicans have for blacks and that's not saying much. To me being a Black Republican is kind of like a slap in the face to our ancestors. Republican governments never lifted a finger to assist in helping blacks get past de facto and de jure segregation. So why should they get our vote to continue to disenfranchise black Americans. I'm not telling anyone what political party to identify with but if you are a Black Republican I see no need to announce it to the world because at the end of the day they don't really want you anyway and you will never be a part of the good ole boys club.
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?
I'm not sure of the answer. Is it possible to really reform and refrain from cheating? Are men more prone to cheating than women? A lot of women believe that all men cheat. I don't believe that. I refuse to believe that cheating is ingrained in men, like its part of their DNA. Cheating is a conscious choice that a person makes. It has more to do with how much you value and respect the person you are with than hormones. It is natural to be attracted to other people even if you are in a relationship, but just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean you have to go out and pursue that person.
I believe its a matter of why someone cheats and the level of cheating. Some people cheat just because they can while others feel neglected or unwanted. The reason why a person cheats is a key factor into whether he/she will do it again, at least in my opinion.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Bleaching for Beauty
Okay so I just saw a clip on MSNBC where the hostess is interviewing Tyra Banks about the new season of her show and a topic covered is skin bleaching. On the show Tyra has a young mother who puts bleach on her kids faces everyday!!!! WTF! Yes I have heard of people bleaching their skin to look lighter but seriously, how warped do you have to be? How can you hate your skin color so much that you would subject your children to a dangerous process that could have them ending up resembling Michael Jackson? No matter how much you bleach your skin you will never be white, so why do it? This woman is teaching her children to hate themselves and hate their culture and that breaks my heart. It's sad to see people still falling for the misconception that lighter is better. If God wanted you to be white he would have made it happen.
Bleaching your skin will return the same results as becoming anorexic. You will look horrible. To have such a distorted image of yourself is something only therapy can help with. I wonder what happened to theses people to make them resort to skin bleaching. It's ironic how white people go to the tanning salon to get darker skin and here we are trying to lighten our skin. When will people learn to love themselves for who they are and not what they think society approves of? There will always be people who will dislike you for some reason albeit it be your skin color or your IQ, either way you should never let someone else's ideals dictate who you are. We are all beautiful in some way, I believe Black is beautiful and no one can tell me anything different. If I were white or Hispanic I would feel the same way. You should embrace your culture, not run from it. Yes we've been mistreated in this world, but bleaching your skin will not ease the burden that black people carry.
Bleaching your skin will return the same results as becoming anorexic. You will look horrible. To have such a distorted image of yourself is something only therapy can help with. I wonder what happened to theses people to make them resort to skin bleaching. It's ironic how white people go to the tanning salon to get darker skin and here we are trying to lighten our skin. When will people learn to love themselves for who they are and not what they think society approves of? There will always be people who will dislike you for some reason albeit it be your skin color or your IQ, either way you should never let someone else's ideals dictate who you are. We are all beautiful in some way, I believe Black is beautiful and no one can tell me anything different. If I were white or Hispanic I would feel the same way. You should embrace your culture, not run from it. Yes we've been mistreated in this world, but bleaching your skin will not ease the burden that black people carry.
Dating No-Nos
There is a lot of dating advice being given everyday, so I thought I would add my two cents and hopefully help some unfortunate girl out. Enjoy and if you have more items to add, please comment.
1. If a man doesn't have time for you, he's most likely seeing someone else.
2. Don't give your number to the guy in the club. He's most likely drunk and will probably not call you and if he does it's not because he wants to date you.
3. Men are never truly single. (thanx B.)
4. Looks do matter, but sometimes the geek is better than the stud. He'll most likely end up rich.
5. A**holes come in every size, color and income level.
6. If he has a lot of girl "friends" at least one of them is in to him or he's slept with at least one.
7. Men are not that smart, tell them what you want.
8. There is no such thing as Mr. Right, there can be a Mr. Pretty Damn Close to Perfect but everyone has character flaws.
9. As they say "you can't turn a ho into a housewife", and you damn sure can't turn a player into a husband.
10. Don't knowingly date someone else's man, I gaurantee it will lead to trouble.
11. Sometimes a background check is necessary.
12. If you have to call a man twenty times and still no answer, he's probably out with another chick.
13. Not every man wants an anorexic skeleton, workout because you want to be healthy not to impress a man.
14. Don't play games, they always backfire and you are the loser.
15. DONT DATE A MARRIED MAN!!!
16. Don't stay with a cheater. They don't change and once the trust is broken it's pretty much impossible to get it back.
17. Don't have casual sex with a guy and then wonder why he doesn't want to be your boyfriend.
18. A guy who only says he loves you when he wants sex doesn't love you.
19. Just because he takes you out once doesn't make him your boyfriend.
20. If your gay friends thinks your man is gay, he probably is.
1. If a man doesn't have time for you, he's most likely seeing someone else.
2. Don't give your number to the guy in the club. He's most likely drunk and will probably not call you and if he does it's not because he wants to date you.
3. Men are never truly single. (thanx B.)
4. Looks do matter, but sometimes the geek is better than the stud. He'll most likely end up rich.
5. A**holes come in every size, color and income level.
6. If he has a lot of girl "friends" at least one of them is in to him or he's slept with at least one.
7. Men are not that smart, tell them what you want.
8. There is no such thing as Mr. Right, there can be a Mr. Pretty Damn Close to Perfect but everyone has character flaws.
9. As they say "you can't turn a ho into a housewife", and you damn sure can't turn a player into a husband.
10. Don't knowingly date someone else's man, I gaurantee it will lead to trouble.
11. Sometimes a background check is necessary.
12. If you have to call a man twenty times and still no answer, he's probably out with another chick.
13. Not every man wants an anorexic skeleton, workout because you want to be healthy not to impress a man.
14. Don't play games, they always backfire and you are the loser.
15. DONT DATE A MARRIED MAN!!!
16. Don't stay with a cheater. They don't change and once the trust is broken it's pretty much impossible to get it back.
17. Don't have casual sex with a guy and then wonder why he doesn't want to be your boyfriend.
18. A guy who only says he loves you when he wants sex doesn't love you.
19. Just because he takes you out once doesn't make him your boyfriend.
20. If your gay friends thinks your man is gay, he probably is.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Abortion
With the presidential election right around the corner, this constant hot button issue has begun to rear its ugly head. Abortion has been a contentious issue between liberals and conservatives for decades, yet I don't believe anyone really has any idea what it means to abort or consider aborting a child. Abortion is something that only those who have been faced with the dilemma could possibly understand. I don't believe most women who decide to abort a fetus comes to the decision easily nor does if have anything to do with vanity. Yes there are those who advocate adoption as a viable alternative but what about the millions of children who are currently in the system who were never adopted and who have been subjected to unimaginable abuse? Abortion is not a simple solution nor is adoption or raising the child, there are so many factors involved in the decision process for a woman and I don't believe anyone should be chastised for the decision she makes.
I mean we have women microwaving their babies, were those babies better off being born or should they have been aborted and saved the suffering? Not every woman makes a good mother. I don't think it's fair to women for others who don't know her situation to judge her, I thought only God held that power. Why do we think we have a right to push our beliefs on the rest of the world, just because we believe it doesn't make it right. No matter what your position on abortion, at the end of the day it's not your right to judge a woman who has been faced with that decision especially when you don't know her circumstances.
I mean we have women microwaving their babies, were those babies better off being born or should they have been aborted and saved the suffering? Not every woman makes a good mother. I don't think it's fair to women for others who don't know her situation to judge her, I thought only God held that power. Why do we think we have a right to push our beliefs on the rest of the world, just because we believe it doesn't make it right. No matter what your position on abortion, at the end of the day it's not your right to judge a woman who has been faced with that decision especially when you don't know her circumstances.
Monday, September 8, 2008
When Arguments Go Too Far
Yesterday I had a huge argument with my boyfriend that resulted in me telling him I wanted to break up. It all started over a candy wrapper and littering, it may be the dumbest and third most volatile argument I have ever participated in. Looking back on our behavior I realize that we both overreacted to a minor situation and it caused havoc within our relationship. So when has an argument gone too far? Is it only when it comes to fist-a-cuffs or is when you say something you regret as soon as it comes out of your mouth? Arguments are bound to happen in any relationship so why do we allow them to escalate out of control especially when you know you still want to be with the person? Why do we allow our anger to get the best of our reasoning and maturity? Why must we be right even when we know we are wrong? Human nature dictates that we win at what we do even if its arguing. We all want to come out on top even when it hurts those closes to us.
Sometimes our anger gets the best of us and it costs us that which we care most about. I for one need to learn how to to better communicate my feelings to others without resorting to profanity and namecalling; it's learned behavior that I really need to unlearn. Our environments growing up play a huge part in dictating our own behavior, we often do what we are shown growing up. I know I grew up in a volatile household where profanity and name calling were prevalent which is why I display the same behavior myself. I'm not making excuses, I know my behavior is wrong and I would like to change it, but I know it will take patience and a lot of time.
Sometimes our anger gets the best of us and it costs us that which we care most about. I for one need to learn how to to better communicate my feelings to others without resorting to profanity and namecalling; it's learned behavior that I really need to unlearn. Our environments growing up play a huge part in dictating our own behavior, we often do what we are shown growing up. I know I grew up in a volatile household where profanity and name calling were prevalent which is why I display the same behavior myself. I'm not making excuses, I know my behavior is wrong and I would like to change it, but I know it will take patience and a lot of time.
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